D and I went to a Christmas party about 90 minutes south of here last night, and had a great time, and a really great and revealing conversation about the future on the ride home. I have a feeling our trip to his folks house next weekend will yield similar types of conversational topics.
I know I mentioned earlier that D and I weren't communicating terribly well on the whole engagement/sense of occasion idea we finally were able to understand one another. I think he now understands my need for making the situation special, and I feel like I understand how he was misinterpreting my feelings initially. He's so concerned about disappointing me or messing things up, and I reassured him, vehemently, that he couldn't possibly screw it up and that all I wanted was the acknowledgement that this was a milestone moment in both of our lives and not just a hiccup along the road of life. I just wanted to pause and recognize that we were making a new and exciting step, together, in our lives. I feel so much better now.
We also talked about how to do all of this wedding business on an angel-hair pasta budget (thinner than a shoestring...get it? ;-p). As a woman, I think there is a genetic predisposition for knowing how all of this works and also how to do it affordably, and I was able to share some of the ideas I had for pulling this together tastefully yet affordably. I designed invitations today on Microsoft Publisher. How about that? They're mock ups right now since we don't have a date set, but I thought they looked quite pretty. No "Wanted" posters here...I know some of you know what I mean by that one! I also looked online for dresses and found some reasonably priced ones at various locations, and not just David's Bridal. Dammit, research is what I do! I can research wedding cost options!! This will be fun.
On a slightly different note, D's dad called me this morning at 8. Yes, 8...after I had been up until 2am...and since I didn't recognize the number, to voice mail it went. What I had was the sweetest message from D's father (who is a classy, elderly gentleman in every sense of the word gentleman) stating how much he and D's stepmother, who is also quite lovely, were very much looking forward to having me in their home for the holidays. How wonderful is that! I saved it of course, so that I can listen to it again. They are such magnificent people!
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how wonderful that a way forward is finally becoming clear! fantastic! :)
i would like to offer something to you. my friend pw has a house at lake junaluska, near asheville. d will know where that is; it's the united methodist stomping ground. her father was a methodist minister, and this was her childhood vacation home. anyway. if she still has the house in five months (it's not renting the way she needs it to in order to keep it, and she will have to reevaluate after the new year), i would like to rent it in full or in part for your honeymoon as a wedding present. so if the two of you are still evaluating options, maybe you would like to consider this one. :)
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